Many of you have been asking about my dates with
Flower Boy otherwise known as Kamal
(pronounced kah-mel). I don't even know where to start... or I guess continue. I do have to say that I am definitely different than many of my friends, and
I'm starting to be okay with that. With that said, here's a brief
(well as brief as a week can be) glimpse into my times with Kamal.
Friday was a night on the town and
INCREDIBLE! We went to the
Top of the Hyatt downtown which has
INCREDIBLE views and great drinks. We then went to this fancy and delish restaurant called
JSix. After an amazing dinner
(I got the salmon) we went to
LOUNGESix which is a club/lounge by their outside pool on the fourth
(or fifth?) floor of this hotel. It was all so great and he did an amazing job of making me feel special.
I wore a black dress with this fabulous heals and he just kept saying how stunning, beautiful, pretty etc I looked which was
AWESOME because I really don't like being called "hot" because that's what guys call the centerfold and I don't want to be compared to her. After that, we went back to his condo and went on the rooftop terrace and just looked out over the San Diego bay and watched boats and it was great. I left having a fabulous night to remember and
a fun time with someone I could possibly be into.
We decided Friday night that we wanted to see each other again and soon so he suggested sushi. Since I'm stupid busy with work and school, he jumped on a free night of mine which happened to be Saturday
(yes the day after the Hyatt night). Granted I didn't get home until
LATE and so Saturday afternoon I was starting to think it wasn't the best idea to be going out again, especially when I was up working on midterms and homework on Saturday, but
hell you're only young once, right? Azuki Sushi date came and went, good conversation but we definitely didn't have AS much to talk about because not much had happened since we last saw each other. After sushi he took me to one of his favorite bars around called
The Imperial House. He warned me that it probably would be dead since it doesn't get a lot of people until later and man oh man was he right. It's sad because I just kept thinking, well why didn't we go to Balboa or dessert or something or even walk to the Starbucks that's right there to kill some time rather than sitting in here with a bunch of old people? Granted I was tired and so I wasn't giving it all it should have been given, but the drink was good and Kamal seemed to open up a bit and share some of the fun times he's had in there with friends. This is when he brought up his ex for the first time
(I say first time because she comes up a couple other times too).
We end the night with him rushing to get me outside and on the rooftop terrace and me 100% confused as to why we have to go
NOW and when he flies the doors open, we goes
"phew we made it" as the first Sea World firework explodes over Point Loma. I was shocked he remembered how much I loved fireworks and he knew when they went off.
Points for Kamal.
It's late, I'm tired, I go home with plans to see him sometime throughout the week after class for dessert or something.
Wednesday comes around and I get out of class early
(7pm instead of 8pm) and so we go to dinner at
Basic downtown and have amazing pizza and salad. Conversation is mostly about school and work for me since that's my whole life these days and how he is glad he's done with school. I bring up how I want to travel when I'm all done and so we talk about his travels.
The ex comes up in this conversation too since there are numerous photos of them on vacays all over his Facebook.
(Side note... anyone reading this who is single, but has photos splashed all over your Facebook with your ex... clean up your Facebook before adding the new person of interest. It'll save you a ton of grief. I did it and avoided a lot of baggage questions.) So I finally ask about her and when they broke up and what his story is. I did it in a nice manner but hey I am curious and he seemed willing to talk. Since my Facebook is clean, he didn't really have much to go off of so
awkwardness averted for Noelle.
Story is they dated for a little over 2 years and broke up in February despite having photos of her and him at a wedding in April of this year
(apparently it was a mutual friend and they were invited together prior to the break up and so they had to go as each others dates or not go at all). Two years and it just ended? Anyone else feeling like I might be a rebound? He assures me I'm not
(hell yeah I asked!) and so I try to push that out of my mind.
It doesn't work.
Friday night comes around and we're going to the Padres Giants game and have
INCREDIBLE seats right behind home plate and three rows back.
INSANE view and just so much fun, or at least it should have been. We go to eat at
East Village Tavern and have yummy food and drinks and then head to Petco Park to watch the Padres lose to the Giants. At the game is when I realized
I don't think I'm into this guy as much as he into me and I'm devastated because I all of a sudden feel like I'm using him
(which I'm not!!) because these seats aren't cheap and he keeps offering to get me a beer and we've done dinners and drinks and the lot and so
I really wanted to like him but I just couldn't. I think a part of it comes back to him not letting me dance in my seat or wave my little rally towel they gave away to everyone saying
"oh you're so cute, we don't do that here". Excuse me? Everyone else around us, including the people in front of us were doing it. So what does that do? Make me want to do it even more... so I do. Ha oh well.
After the game we go to a few bars and it doesn't get any better and
I'm solidifying my exit strategy. I knew that was probably the last date I would ever have with him, but I wasn't 100% sure of how I would make that happen.
After Friday night I continued to get texts from him all the time about how much he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. While some might think that's cute, let's remember that I haven't known him more than two weeks and we're just seeing each other, not even dating. So I consider it smoothering and creepy. When I told him I had three weeks of homework to complete because I was leaving town for work for a week his words were
"oh you never told me that"...um I'm sorry...?? Yeah it was signs of a controlled future
so I bailed.
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On the plus side... with our amazing seats,
I had awesome shoes to go along with! |
All in all it was fun and we ended up ending it
(whatever "it" was) today via long texts and that is that. He said he wants to continue hanging out as friends if I'm
"ever ready for that". Yeah, thanks but no thanks buddy.
I'm a happy kid who dances in her seat and waves her rally towel for the Padres... you didn't like that remember?
Cool, we're done.
Ciao!
On another note, I did cancel my eHarm account today because I realized I didn't have time for it. So the dating posts from those I meet online shall end, for now, but I'm sure I'll have stories from my random life regardless of how I meet them.
Until next time...
