Some of the mom's I deal with...

I have the best job in my office (I think at least). I get to manage all the social media which leads to some awesome questions/comments most of the time.
 
Case and point...


Love caring moms...

Until next time...

I'm like no girl he's ever met...

Most girls would take the phrase "you're like no girl I've ever met" as a compliment right? Well apparently I'm like no girl Ross has ever met and it wasn't met as a compliment. Let me explain....

So as mentioned in my previous post about eHarm guy Ross, he's needy and emotional when it comes to his desire for contact from me. Which is definitely not me.... well last night this topic came up and let's just say it ended with him calling my bluff and me actually following through with walking out of his house and into my car. Needless to say, he was shocked I did that. Again, not like any girl he's ever dated... this will become a theme. Just watch.

Here are the key points as to not make this blog painfully long... we go bowling (in Poway (non SD locals... that's about 20-30 minutes from SD proper)) and have sushi dinner and have SO MUCH FUN laughing and just joking around. All of a sudden he goes...

"so you're not very attentive to texts are you?"
"um whaaaat?" (Caught completely off guard and thinking no no no noottttt here nooootttt nowwwww)
"You don't respond to my texts or calls all the time very quick, you must not be much of a texter, right?" 

Now at this point, smart me would have been like "oh nope so weird" but then he'd call more and that's just tragic so I said "oh well yeah I do text a lot but you have to understand where I'm coming from...."

At this point we're standing int the parking lot of Poway Fun Bowl and chatting about my dating past and how it's recent blah blah blah (not trying to scare him off, but give him context) and he accepts it, thanks me for telling him and then I go "you know what Ross, I'm an open book, ask what you'd like." 

All the way home and for a good 45 minutes in his apartment he practically interrogates me....which I'm cool with, whatever, but then he says it's my turn (FINALLY!) 

So I ask some basic background dating questions and the like and about 15 minutes in he's like "wow this is really becoming like a job interview" Me, caught off guard again since wasn't I the one who was just interrogated for over an hour? (the answer is 'yes' to that question ps) but I go "okay wow I'm sorry you feel that way" and then go on to tell him I'm the type of person with thick skin and you can just tell me when you don't like something, I'm a big girl.

This is when I get the "you're like no girl I've ever dated... you're not emotional at all" Well buddy that's wrong I am emotional but I'm not want YOU want... So it goes south from here where he digs at my getting an MBA (again, yes again) and so I go "so it obviously is something that bugs you, are you okay with someone you're dating getting their MBA?" and that's when he practically loses it with defensiveness and I cut it off and say

"alright I think it's time for me to go...." 
"no I'm sorry no don't leave stay" 
"no I think it's a good time for us to call it a night... I'm going to leave." 

At this time I take my purse and leave while he's still sitting on the couch, calling my bluff. Not happening. I walk to my car, get in it and start it when I see him running out of his complex telling me to stop and saying again "you're just not like anyone I've ever dated..." (My thoughts... I GET IT ALREADY!)

Needless to say it ended with me leaving it up to him if I see him again and here's the 24hr later update... he texts back when texted... sooo it's left there...

Shout out though to my awesome roommate who totally gets me and understands us "unemotional girls" aka girls with career drive and not desperate to be baby machines and wives asap... we had a great laugh about this date over fro yo tonight after class... which ps I'm now MAYOR of Cup of Yo... yessireeee!

I digress... anyways, yeah so chalk it up to being the weird one and being okay with it!

Until next time...

Am I the weird one?

I know I haven't written about my eHarm experiences in a long time, but in all honesty, there haven't been any. That is until this last Saturday when I hung out with Ross (I'm using his real name since I'll save his company from ya)... Ross and I went to Toronado in North Park and were there for FOUR hours. No joke... four hours. Not a dull moment either! We talked about how similar our jobs are, how we picked our majors, where we're going in our careers, family life etc. It was great! Honestly, so great! Well after a few hours I asked if he was ready to go. While I was bummed he said "sure, let's head out" I knew it had been hours and it was probably time to call it a date and be done with it.

Well long story short, I ended up running home, changing and grabbing a quick dinner and heading back out to North Park to hang out with him again. Yes, in the same day we hung out again. I was that stoked on him. That time was so great and we continued to have great conversation and we planned to hang out again on Tuesday since I didn't have class.

All seemed fine when he texted me Sunday to see how I was doing. Seemed harmless. Well weird thing was I was pretty sick Sunday and so I wasn't texting him back right away. I was literally sleeping ALL DAY (and NO I wasn't hungover like few have asked... I had to drive home so no way did I drink that much!) I think my body just said "I QUIT!!" after a few late nights and just needed to crash and sleep as much as possible. Anyways, so I take some time to text him back because after all I'm practically in a coma all day Sunday. Well when he asks if he can bring soup and a movie over to my house I thought it was adorable until he asked again. NORMALLY (or so I thought...) when a girl is sick early in a relationship, the guy may give the option to bring stuff over but inside he's thinking "please no please no please no" but doesn't want to come off as insensitive. Not this guy... He was unrelenting about coming over and making sure I'm okay. In all honesty I was fine but just completely out of it. He would have honestly just watched me sleep since I wasn't even watching TV I was so tired.

Then Sunday night (like 10pm) he calls to say goodnight and see if he could have a hug goodnight. um excuse? Did I seriously hear you correctly? When I joke "wow it's late and you're far away" his response is "I just want to see your beautiful face sweetheart and make sure you're okay" Okay... how adorable is this guy? But on the flip side... I have been SICK all day and look like a complete mess and already told this guy 'no' and it's 10pm... who is this guy!?

Today I stayed home from work because I was just utterly exhausted still and rather risk giving whatever this is to my coworkers or risk continuing to get worse, I just slept all day again and worked on some homework. After a few texts from Ross I was getting a little annoyed.... Requests to see me after class or grab lunch or whatever, I was starting to wonder who the crazy one was in this "relationship"... IF this were to go anywhere, this needy behavior will need to stop. Pronto!

So I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about it and she doesn't think it's weird and actually would love it if her boyfriend was like that. Which got me to thinking... they've been dating for a while and Ross and I are not even "dating" in my opinion... we're getting to know each other. It's different, trust me. BUT! When Ryan and I were dating I would get PISSED when he didn't pay me the attention I thought I deserved... so trying to think about the future (if there is one with this Ross guy) would I want to stop the neediness now but let him know in the future a little more "desire" is okay? I mean how do you even have that conversation? "Hey I like you kinda right now but I'm not really ready for your crazy clingy behavior but in the future I might be so be ready to try again in a few months and if it's not good still I'll be sure to letcha know! THANKS!" Right... that's annoying...

So readers... help me out! Leave me a comment with what I should do. This guy is utterly perfect and the best I've met in a LONG time... minus the cling.

I hang out with him again tomorrow night and so we'll see how it goes and if I am still as stoked on him come Wednesday morning.... we'll see

Until next time...

Read from the beginning of my adventures in online dating here