I know I haven't written about my eHarm experiences in a long time, but in all honesty, there haven't been any. That is until this last Saturday when I hung out with Ross (I'm using his real name since I'll save his company from ya)... Ross and I went to Toronado in North Park and were there for FOUR hours. No joke... four hours. Not a dull moment either! We talked about how similar our jobs are, how we picked our majors, where we're going in our careers, family life etc. It was great! Honestly, so great! Well after a few hours I asked if he was ready to go. While I was bummed he said "sure, let's head out" I knew it had been hours and it was probably time to call it a date and be done with it.
Well long story short, I ended up running home, changing and grabbing a quick dinner and heading back out to North Park to hang out with him again. Yes, in the same day we hung out again. I was that stoked on him. That time was so great and we continued to have great conversation and we planned to hang out again on Tuesday since I didn't have class.
All seemed fine when he texted me Sunday to see how I was doing. Seemed harmless. Well weird thing was I was pretty sick Sunday and so I wasn't texting him back right away. I was literally sleeping ALL DAY (and NO I wasn't hungover like few have asked... I had to drive home so no way did I drink that much!) I think my body just said "I QUIT!!" after a few late nights and just needed to crash and sleep as much as possible. Anyways, so I take some time to text him back because after all I'm practically in a coma all day Sunday. Well when he asks if he can bring soup and a movie over to my house I thought it was adorable until he asked again. NORMALLY (or so I thought...) when a girl is sick early in a relationship, the guy may give the option to bring stuff over but inside he's thinking "please no please no please no" but doesn't want to come off as insensitive. Not this guy... He was unrelenting about coming over and making sure I'm okay. In all honesty I was fine but just completely out of it. He would have honestly just watched me sleep since I wasn't even watching TV I was so tired.
Then Sunday night (like 10pm) he calls to say goodnight and see if he could have a hug goodnight. um excuse? Did I seriously hear you correctly? When I joke "wow it's late and you're far away" his response is "I just want to see your beautiful face sweetheart and make sure you're okay" Okay... how adorable is this guy? But on the flip side... I have been SICK all day and look like a complete mess and already told this guy 'no' and it's 10pm... who is this guy!?
Today I stayed home from work because I was just utterly exhausted still and rather risk giving whatever this is to my coworkers or risk continuing to get worse, I just slept all day again and worked on some homework. After a few texts from Ross I was getting a little annoyed.... Requests to see me after class or grab lunch or whatever, I was starting to wonder who the crazy one was in this "relationship"... IF this were to go anywhere, this needy behavior will need to stop. Pronto!
So I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about it and she doesn't think it's weird and actually would love it if her boyfriend was like that. Which got me to thinking... they've been dating for a while and Ross and I are not even "dating" in my opinion... we're getting to know each other. It's different, trust me. BUT! When Ryan and I were dating I would get PISSED when he didn't pay me the attention I thought I deserved... so trying to think about the future (if there is one with this Ross guy) would I want to stop the neediness now but let him know in the future a little more "desire" is okay? I mean how do you even have that conversation? "Hey I like you kinda right now but I'm not really ready for your crazy clingy behavior but in the future I might be so be ready to try again in a few months and if it's not good still I'll be sure to letcha know! THANKS!" Right... that's annoying...
So readers... help me out! Leave me a comment with what I should do. This guy is utterly perfect and the best I've met in a LONG time... minus the cling.
I hang out with him again tomorrow night and so we'll see how it goes and if I am still as stoked on him come Wednesday morning.... we'll see
Until next time...
Read from the beginning of my adventures in online dating here
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